Many people today draw a complete blank when it comes to knowing how to deal with a friend who has suffered a loss of any kind. Whether a close friend has lost a job, a girlfriend or boyfriend, or a physical ability, the majority of people have no clue what to say or do to help. What we should aim for, is giving someone a better perspective on what has happened to him or her.
One thing I have observed, is that a person who has experienced a loss of any kind may not even want you to know how much he or she is hurting. Therefore, it is important to be natural. Focus on issues other than what has been lost. Hopefully, if this is a friend you truly love, he or she will come to understand that they are in a safe environment, and may want to talk about it. Whatever the matter, whether someone actually verbalizes about the problem or not, the best thing we can do is to make our friend feel safe by reassure him or her that we are unchanged, and that the quality of our friendship will remain unshaken.
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