"If a man gave all the substance of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned"
--Song of Solomon chapter 8, verse 7
I am sharing the above verse, and I would like you to see the word love, as friendship. Because the world is going around and around, and all of us are after different things in our lives. And the only thing we are willing to ever stop for, is for those we care about deeply.
You see, because in order for a friendship to grow in a healthy way, there will be times when we will need to put away our own wishes and desires and make ourselves available to another. And although there's a lot of talk about celebrating our differences, and this is good to do, there are times when we will need to conform ourselves to another person's likes and dislikes.
The word, to say it plainly, is sacrifice. Sacrifice for the sake of another has become almost an extinct practice. So many motivational speakers encourage us to "seize the present moment". They tell us to concentrate only on doing "what feels right" for us. But friends, I'm sorry to tell you; look further down the road of a life lived only for what is going to be good for you. What you will see is one very lonely person. The need for friendship dictates that we must communicate love to those who we appreciate having in our lives. This will mean, going with "what feels right" for them at times.
A healthy balance of letting our friends know where we stand and what we expect, and being sensitive to their personality components and what they need from us, is likely to end up in a stable, happy friendship!
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