How does friendship happen? Friendship is solely dependent on communication. Without the ability to understand what someone is telling me, and the ability to respond with an answer that will satisfy the need addressed, a friendship cannot be grow.
What is your first thought when you wake in the morning? Chances are, if you're like me, you think of the best way to present yourself to those you care about to where they can be persuaded to meet your needs, whatever they may be. So right away, our waking desire is to be "at peace with ourselves, the world and everyone in it"*. There is only one catch. Every individual on the face of this earth wants to be validated for his or her own specific needs, and each of us will find throughout the course of the day that some people will be turned on to our needs, and unfortunately, some will be turned off.
When people are turned off, to our needs, we should feel challenged to develop improved communication with them. A big mistake we make when we feel threatened by someone's lack of connection with us is that we allow ourselves to feel destroyed, even by a minor incident! And over a single miscommunication, we sometimes consider someone a foe who would otherwise have had great potential to turn into a friend. So remember, when things don't work out right away as you hoped, be patient.
As you proceed through your day, stay focused on those relationships in your life that are the most meaningful. Concentrate on how to best contribute to the health of those. This way your heart will be at rest. And for me, to be at rest in my innermost heart is the most important thing.
*Dick Sutphen
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