So much could be discussed under this topic. But for now I just want to go into: caring for a person who does not seem to care about you. It has been the prevailing topic on, at least the social media that I've been on, of 2015. Women wanting to be free of men who are no longer nice to them, and men needing to get over women.
So let me make an outline, cause there's lots to discuss:
A. Avoid becoming sexually active
It is very much more difficult to break it off with someone once you have enjoyed good sex with him/her. You remember the sensations, the emotions, and I've been told it's almost impossible to get someone out of your mind after being sexually active with him/her. So, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. You will not be hurting as badly when a relationship ends if there was no sex.
B. Concentrate on those who do care
Think about those people in your life who do care about you, and spend most of your time with them. Are there people in your life who you have been taking for granted? People who really believe in you and love you, but you figure, "oh they'll always be around, no need to cultivate that relationship". Often the love of mom and dad is given a very poor rating where the priorities of young men and women are concerned. But the people who value you should be the ones you concentrate on. Often it turns out that with putting some effort into these relationships, you will be amazed how much more rewarding they can be than you ever thought.
C. Distance
As best you are able, distance yourself geographically from someone you are trying to forget. The saying is, "out of sight and out of mind". If you can create a situation where it will be more difficult for you and the person to see each other, then it will be easier to give up on him/her, and to put your mind on more important things. But you have to really really see how much going on with a damaging relationship is stealing from your quality of life. It takes a real commitment to your own happiness to decide, I want the very best for myself, no matter what the cost. And if you mean it, you will relocate, if he/she's a coworker, you will find a new job, and basically do whatever it takes to make it clear to both you and him/her that the relationship has no future.
In closing, I just want to say that the emphasis made by society on sex and romantic love is completely out of proportion. We don't have to be married. We don't have to have perfect bodies or perfect facial features. And if we do not get married, it doesn't mean there was something wrong with our bodies or our faces. Stand your ground! Be you. Marry you. Tell yourself, "I (your name) do lawfully take myself, forsaking all others: to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or worse, till the day I die".
♬ Paul Simon: 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover
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