There is something that I've noticed people expressing about modern day friendship. Some of the young people I follow on my social media sites have expressed that, for a friendship to be totally authentic, your friend must be able make you feel absolutely horrible, and I've seen it said that if a friend does not do that, then you don't really love him/her.
Now, I can only speak from my own perspective: Andre and I almost don't argue at all. We observe the tenderheartedness in one another, we make note of what makes the other uncomfortable or feel inconvenienced, and right away we get to work on avoiding causing any unnecessary stress to each other. This is the very opposite of what I see some people defining as love.
Many of the kids today, because they are so eager to find real love, they go ahead and define real love as the only type of interaction they have experienced so far in their lives. In fact, it is possible that the very relationships that have disappointed them and made them miserable, they will turn around and say it is love, because they do not want to face the hurt.
A friendship that is built to last must be one which leaves both people feeling contented and lucky to have one another. Both must feel that they are receiving love, and not aggravation. Aggravation is hardly the same thing as love.
I want to leave you with a scripture passage where Paul discussed how people should work to please God, not just men/women:
"Servants, be obedient to them that are your lords according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in the simplicity of your heart, as to Christ: Not serving to the eye, as it were pleasing men, but, as the servants of Christ doing the will of God from the heart, With a good will serving, as to the Lord, and not to men" -
Ephesians 6:5-7 Douay-Rheims 1899
In friendship as well, we should be interacting with our friends with the idea that God is watching. Therefore, we should not toy with people's hearts, or expect them to toy with ours.
♬ Suzi Quatro and Chris Norman: Stumblin' In
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