Can't Keep It In

Can't Keep It In from A Friendly Human Being on Vimeo.

Making sure we stay focused, keeping in mind that religion is a great help. But if it takes our eyes from knowing that at the center of religion is love, then it becomes useless.

Anyone mad? Why not don't be and say you were?

I imagine we all go through times when people "push our buttons". They do and/or say something uncaring, and our anger and pride take over. There are probably a variety of reasons why people push our buttons. But lately, I seem to have begun to train myself to just to let it go. Whatever the upset, whatever the unfair occurrence or words spoken, whatever has been done to me, I look at my anger as a happy child climbing the ladder of a water slide, and just gliding down the slide, till he or she makes contact with the water, and the impact makes a great big splash! And GONE! My mood has changed. Whatever anger and injustice I experienced no longer matters.

Are you upset? Are you angry? Let it slide down the waterslide and into that pool. So much fun! Gone! Only having fun in the water now.

Be true to you

I'VE GOTTA BE ME
by Sammy Davis Jr.

Whether I'm right or whether I'm wrong
Whether I find a place in this world or never belong
I gotta be me, I've gotta be me
What else can I be but what I am

I want to live, not merely survive
And I won't give up this dream
Of life that keeps me alive
I gotta be me, I gotta be me
The dream that I see makes me what I am

That far-away prize, a world of success
Is waiting for me if I heed the call
I won't settle down, won't settle for less
As long as there's a chance that I can have it all

I'll go it alone, that's how it must be
I can't be right for somebody else
If I'm not right for me
I gotta be free, I've gotta be free
Daring to try, to do it or die
I've gotta be me

I'll go it alone, that's how it must be
I can't be right for somebody else
If I'm not right for me
I gotta be free, I just gotta be free
Daring to try, to do it or die
I gotta be me

Let There Be Peace On Earth

Looking forward to more friendship in the New Year. I'll be around! (God willing)

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do from A Friendly Human Being on Vimeo.

The biggest friendship issue of 2015: trying to stop caring

So much could be discussed under this topic. But for now I just want to go into: caring for a person who does not seem to care about you. It has been the prevailing topic on, at least the social media that I've been on, of 2015. Women wanting to be free of men who are no longer nice to them, and men needing to get over women.

So let me make an outline, cause there's lots to discuss:

A. Avoid becoming sexually active

    It is very much more difficult to break it off with someone once you have enjoyed good sex with him/her. You remember the sensations, the emotions, and I've been told it's almost impossible to get someone out of your mind after being sexually active with him/her. So, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. You will not be hurting as badly when a relationship ends if there was no sex.

B.   Concentrate on those who do care

  Think about those people in your life who do care about you, and spend most of your time with them. Are there people in your life who you have been taking for granted? People who really believe in you and love you, but you figure, "oh they'll always be around, no need to cultivate that relationship". Often the love of mom and dad is given a very poor rating where the priorities of young men and women are concerned. But the people who value you should be the ones you concentrate on. Often it turns out that with putting some effort into these relationships, you will be amazed how much more rewarding they can be than you ever thought.

C.   Distance

  As best you are able, distance yourself geographically from someone you are trying to forget. The saying is, "out of sight and out of mind". If you can create a situation where it will be more difficult for you and the person to see each other, then it will be easier to give up on him/her, and to put your mind on more important things. But you have to really really see how much going on with a damaging relationship is stealing from your quality of life. It takes a real commitment to your own happiness to decide, I want the very best for myself, no matter what the cost. And if you mean it, you will relocate, if he/she's a coworker, you will find a new job, and basically do whatever it takes to make it clear to both you and him/her that the relationship has no future.

In closing, I just want to say that the emphasis made by society on sex and romantic love is completely out of proportion. We don't have to be married. We don't have to have perfect bodies or perfect facial features. And if we do not get married, it doesn't mean there was something wrong with our bodies or our faces. Stand your ground! Be you. Marry you. Tell yourself, "I (your name) do lawfully take myself, forsaking all others: to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or worse, till the day I die".

♬ Paul Simon: 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

You're not alone!

♬    ROCK N'ROLL SUICIDE
        by David Bowie

Time takes a cigarette, puts it in your mouth
You pull on your finger, then another finger, then your
cigarette
The wall-to-wall is calling, it lingers, then you forget
Ohhh, you're a rock 'n' roll suicide

You're too old to lose it, too young to choose it

And the clock waits so patiently on your song
You walk past a cafe but you don't eat when you've lived
too long
Oh, no, no, no, you're a rock 'n' roll suciide

Chev brakes are snarling as you stumble across the road

But the day breaks instead so you hurry home
Don't let the sun blast your shadow
Don't let the milk float ride your mind
You're so natural - religiously unkind

Oh no love! you're not alone
You're watching yourself but you're too unfair
You got your head all tangled up but if I could only make you care
Oh no love! you're not alone
No matter what or who you've been
No matter when or where you've seen
All the knives seem to lacerate your brain
I've had my share, I'll help you with the pain
You're not alone

Just turn on with me and you're not alone
Let's turn on with me and you're not alone
Let's turn on and be not alone
Gimme your hands cause you're wonderful [x2]
Oh gimme your hands.